Human interaction is very nuanced and this can make it difficult to become adept at (even more so if you consider yourself introverted).
First, you have to say and do the right things the right way at the right time.
But not only that- you then have to pay attention and react appropriately to whoever you’re conversing with. The problem is compounded with the glut of articles on some “magic pill” to help us better connect or- even worse- the cliche advice to “just do it.”
Trying to process all this information and implement all these tips at once ends up being more of a negative thing than something beneficial (multitasking is ineffective).
What is most beneficial?
There is no “one” key element to improved social encounters- there are many. The best approach is to determine and improve the few elements that have the biggest effect on the interaction (see Pareto’s principle).
The process doesn’t happen overnight. But focusing on one thing at a time will make you feel more accomplished and confident- that progress gives you something to build off.
This article is not a magic pill.
This article is a roadmap to beginning work on one of those key elements.